My 9 year old daughter will not stay in her room following a traumatic experience...has had counseling...help?

Last October, we came home from vacation to find my father in law dead on the floor from a heart attack. My daughter and husband were the first ones in the house to find him. A few months later, she was taking the trash out to the dumpster in our complex when a man who was collecting cans from the dumpster jumped up and scared her (would/ve scared me too!). She has seen a counselor who made some good suggestions, getting her into a different extra-curricular activity that she loves, and so on. My husband and I talked to to the counselor numerous times about her not sleeping in her own room and he said that until she's 12, I really don't need to worry about it, it's a normal thing. My husband doesn't think that's right and is really getting frustrated and nothing seems to work on getting her to sleep in her own room. Does anyone have any suggestions? She does not sleep in our bed, just next to it, and now recently in the last month or so, in the hallway halfway in our room and halfway out. Tonight the whole family had a big blowout about it and I am at my wit's end. Any advice would be greatly appreciated!